10 Common Lies Which Do You No Good

Hello to thinkers and doers alike, as the list requires common lies the entries are in no way original but the act of making this list was valuable to me so I’m sharing it here. It is always a good idea to watch what you say as it affects what you think.

  • Sorry… I forgot
    • Sometimes it’s better to come clean about not wanting to do something. Otherwise, you come off as untrustworthy and people are less likely to trust you to do the important stuff.
  • …Be there in five / be ready in five
    • I’m not saying you should share all the details but don’t waste others’ time. Also with a bit of practice, you can estimate more or less when you get somewhere to an accuracy of fewer than 2 minutes.
  • Yes, I understand / of course / I┬áheard and understand everything that you said, Doctor.
    • It’s better to get slightly annoyed or even to express a lack of interest than it is to leave a false impression or get yourself into a latter argument because you weren’t listening. (of course, it is better to listen but we don’t have infinite patience)
  • I’m fine / everything’s good
    • The problem with this as a casual statement is that it leads to a certain complacency. As our words shape our thought just as much as our thought shape our words. and being complacent leads to missing opportunities for improvement.
  • I’ll be right back.
    • Honesty is better in the long-term or even the less-short-term, you don’t want to get caught up in big lies because of a small lie. We’ve covered this already.
  • I will do it later
    • This normally means I probably won’t. As we rebel against tyranny through procrastination and we tyrannize ourselves all the time, the best way to do something is by convincing yourself:
  • I want to do this and get it done soon.
    • lying about it devalues your words and you want to be able to trust yourself not find more intricate ways of lying to yourself. If you truly want to be honest the thing to say is.
      I want to get this done and I am willing to sacrifice x,y,z money, time, etc, in order to reap the results.
  • Most things you say to your children
    • If you truly value their future than it’s better they learn a bit of disappointment than grow accustomed to the casual lie. In fact, not admitting ignorance is an incredibly bad habit that can seriously hamper future learning and growth.
  • I’m not hungry/tired/thirst/drunk
    • Letting people know how you are is far better the getting annoyed at them for not being considerate or silently fuming
  • I didn’t do it
    • Don’t lie, lying is bad. And in this case, you probably will get someone else in trouble the big question to ask yourself is: Is avoiding this moment of embarrassment worth the hours of guilt?

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